Are you feeling bored and looking for that next high?
Would you like to shift from seeking to feeling fulfillment?
We live in a culture of desiring more and more. We’re encouraged to seek happiness in new relationships, exciting careers, fresh adventures, and material possessions. Esther Perel speaks to this modern phenomenon: where once we left jobs or relationships because we were unhappy, now we leave because we believe we could be happier.
But here’s the twist: the ecstasy you’re searching for isn’t hiding in external changes. As Margot Anand beautifully puts it:
“Ecstasy is already within you. You need not look for it outside.”
The truth is, living ecstatically isn’t about chasing adrenaline highs or peak experiences—it’s about awakening to the richness of what’s already here.
You may have heard that before. I had for years, and now I live it, knowing that at any moment, I can feel ecstatic. I can choose the way I feel and not need my environment to make me happy.
Why Routine Feels Anti-Ecstatic
Routines are the backbone of security, but they can stifle our creativity and desire. In relationships especially, routine can dull the spark, making life feel predictable and monotonous.
Variety, or the allure of “newness,” stirs our senses and awakens eros—the life force that fuels passion and vitality.
But before you rush to change everything, consider this:
What if newness doesn’t require leaving, changing, or escaping? What if it’s a shift in perception?
Here is an invitation to explore how this works.
Cultivate Newness: Rediscover the Moment
When was the last time you truly joined a moment with fresh eyes?
Imagine watching a movie you’ve seen before. One approach is to anticipate each scene, disengaged and half-bored. Another is to dive in, noticing subtle layers you missed before. Relationships, routines, and everyday life are no different.
“Life has limitless layers. The art is to live the exact moment a thousand times and see it as a unique experience.”
Here’s a practice to try:
Join Each Moment Exercise
- Pick an object in your home—a chair, a mug, or a plant.
- Pretend you’re seeing it for the first time.
- Observe its color, texture, and how light dances on its surface.
- Ask yourself: What’s new here?
When we bring this beginner’s mind to relationships and life, newness becomes abundant.
The Science of Newness
Did you know that novelty stimulates dopamine, the brain chemical linked to pleasure and motivation? This isn’t about chasing the new—it’s about breaking mental patterns that keep us stuck in autopilot.
Example: Think of a song you adore. You could listen to it a thousand times and still feel its magic. Why? Because your presence keeps it alive.
J.O.Y. – Join, Open, Yield
Living ecstatically invites us to:
- Join each moment: Let go of what you think you know.
- Open to the unexpected: Curiosity fuels connection.
- Yield to what’s here: Surrender the need for “better” and savor the now.
An Invitation to Awaken
Ecstasy doesn’t mean life is perfect—it means life is alive. You don’t need a new job, a different partner, or a bigger house to feel it. You need only to embrace this truth:
“You will never again be here. Every moment holds the promise of birth and death—a once-in-a-lifetime experience if we allow it.”
So, how will you meet this moment?
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