Want to know a Super Hot Turn-On?
One of the hottest and most long-standing turn-ons – is being met.
The first time Thomas and I met each other, I felt that he was too intense. I lacked confidence and thought I would not stand up for what was important to me. Our balance was off.
The opposite, having a partner who was a pushover, was not satisfying either. Being with someone who was grounded in their truth and had enough backbone to stand up to me was a turn-on.
With my growing confidence and force as a woman, I didn’t want to worry about overshadowing my partner or in any way, needing to stay small.
I wanted someone who could handle all of me, my crazy ideas, my full expression and passion, and expand and grow with me.
It wasn’t until five years after our original meeting, when our paths crossed again that I loved how Thomas “met me.” I could be big, strong, passionate, expressive, and he didn’t get small and crumble.
And, it’s hard to admit, but I appreciated that he didn’t put up with my shit, like when I was over-controlling (don’t tell him). Or when I undermined my potential.
He met me:
Emotionally:
• Lovingly supported me to express myself honestly, vulnerably, and accountably.
• When we began to sweat the small stuff, he’d lighten the mood. Or if I’d try to minimize something important, Thomas would kindly listen for the deeper truth.
Intellectually:
• Inspired new thoughts and continued personal growth.
Spirituality:
• Respectfully challenged me to believe in myself.
• Considered higher consciousness and the greater good.
Physically and sexually:
• Playfully wrestled with me, often ending in a passionate love fest.
• Sensitively moved us beyond mediocrity and kept us out of ruts.
• Reliably held me in his masculine power, allowing me to surrender into receptivity.
Being met balances power and surrender, yang and yin.
How do you like to be met?
Do you like slow, gentle caresses?
Or do you like to be ravished intensely and feel the strength of your lover?
And possibly a combination of softness and firmness turns you on.
Most of us need to feel met to feel passion. We want to feel our partner responds to our level of intensity and challenges us.
After 35 years together, I still love feeling the strength of Thomas’ body against me, his grip that matches my heat.
From Thomas’ side, he says,
“When I start to go down a rabbit hole, Sara listens to my struggle but doesn’t go down with me.
When we feel secure in our relationship, we have more intense play. She may not go skydiving with me, but she’s there as a support, watching and cheering me on.”
How are you meeting yourself?
Are you communicating your range of needs in your life?